Damilola Adegbite advises single women to choose partners based on love, respect and emotional maturity rather than simply being chosen
Nollywood actress Damilola Adegbite has advised single women not to accept relationship or marriage proposals simply because a man has chosen them, urging them instead to consider whether the person is genuinely right for them.
Adegbite shared the advice during a recent episode of her podcast published on her YouTube channel, where she discussed relationships, compatibility and the factors women should consider when choosing a life partner.
The actress said some women may settle for men who are ready for marriage simply because those men have expressed interest in them, without taking enough time to consider whether the relationship would provide the support and partnership they need.
“Ladies, don’t choose someone because they chose you. Choose someone because they are right for you,” Adegbite said.
She argued that age should not be the defining factor when choosing a partner, provided the relationship is built on mutual understanding and a shared desire to grow together.
“Whether he’s younger, older or exactly your age, the question is always: Can we love, support, and build with each other?” she asked.
Adegbite said the goal should not simply be to find someone who wants to marry, but to find a partner with whom a meaningful and supportive life can be built.
“Because at the end of the day, we are not looking for numbers. We are looking for a partner. And if that partner happens to be younger, that is also fine,” she added.
The actress also addressed older women who may receive proposals from younger men, cautioning them against accepting such relationships simply because the attention makes them feel desirable.
She urged them to look beyond age and examine the prospective partner’s character, intentions and emotional maturity.
“To the older woman, if a younger man is interested in you, please don’t make the mistake of choosing him because he makes you feel desirable,” Adegbite said.
Instead, she advised women to consider whether the man respects and supports them and whether he provides a sense of emotional security.
“Choose him because he respects, supports, and makes you feel safe,” she added.
Adegbite further encouraged women to consider whether a younger partner understands what he wants, respects their existing responsibilities and is prepared to build a future with them.
“Only choose him if he is emotionally mature and knows what he wants, respects your children and your life, and actually wants to build something with you,” she said.
Her message centred on intentionality in relationships, encouraging women to make choices based on compatibility and shared values rather than validation or societal expectations.
